Vision & Mission


Extreme Teen Leaders vision is to create a world where the teens in our community are well-rounded, conscious to their higher purpose, visionary, and successful in every domain of their lives.


Our mission is to provide teens with tools that will help them to:

  • Become aware of their self-limiting beliefs
  • Understand their higher purpose
  • Create a vision for a more meaningful future
  • Become an effective and impactful leader
  • Achieve their most challenging goals in less time
  • Connect with other teens who are also committed to growth
  • Work collaboratively on a highly diverse team
  • Create leaders greater than themselves and lead others to their greatness


To become the leading social and emotional learning (SEL) nonprofit organization providing the community with transformational trainings for youth 

  • Trusted family and community partner
  • Diversity reflective of a global world
  • Uniquely branded
  • Operational excellence
  • Affordable and accessible

Core Values

Discipline - We will consistently train and develop youth by instruction and exercise to be impactful leaders equipped with social and emotional learning competencies that will help them to create success in every domain of their life

Integrity - We will hold every student leader as perfect, whole, and complete created with purpose and vision. We will help them to align their choices, language and ways of being with their purpose and vision. We will train them to be in integrity with their word

Responsibility - We will train and develop leaders that choose to be responsible for everything in their life - to be accountable and create their life experience through each choice they make

Enrollment - We will embody ways of being that are inspiring, engaging, and admirable that cause others to take committed actions in their life

Commitment - We believe commitment is when you honor your word no matter what. We will give ourselves fully to our commitments and follow through

Teamwork - We believe all big visions require a diverse team - and in order for one to win, all must win. We create a win/win in everything we do

Extreme Teen Leaders (XTL) is committed to creating student leaders and being their possibility partners! Every teen in the triangle gets to have the opportunity to discover, unleash, and make a positive impact in the world. We are creating the next generation of leaders NOW!

If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do well matters very much. - Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis

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 A Message from the President & Founder

When I came across this quote early on in my years of motherhood, I took this very seriously and was determined to not bungle it up! One of the ways in which I did that was to create things for my kids to do that were opportunities for them to learn, engage with other kids, and develop as well-rounded, disciplined, and educated children. I researched and found cool things for them to do, partnered with other parents that were doing awesome things with their kids, and started developing programs and events for my kids and their friends, which eventually expanded to the neighborhood kids too! I was really involved with my church and started developing programs and teaching while my kids were young. Through those years of experience, I branched out into the community and started creating programs in the community and pouring into youth. My goal was to provide them opportunities to participate in programs that helped them to realize how amazing they were, to be a contribution to their community, and develop them intellectually so they could make good decisions and reason through tough challenges.

Raising five children was no easy task, but as they began to mature I could see that whatever I was doing was working. Although my oldest two, struggled in high school they graduated and went on to college. During their last years of high school I started implementing these leadership principles and coaching them using these new tools. As a result, they both went on to college and in their first year earned made the Dean's List majoring in Computer Science and Education. They both graduated college with honors, Magna Cum Laude and Summa Cum Laude. One is a passionate 2nd grade teacher, and entrepreneur and just completed her Master's in Education. The other is an entrepreneur, vegan chef and technologist working to open her own vegan restaurant. My oldest son also went on to college and made the Dean's List and graduated with honors, Cum Laude, in Computer Science and is now in school working on his Master's in Computer Science. My youngest daughter, is a licensed Cosmetologist and is a talented stylist and wig designer...her work is amazing. My youngest son is exploring life and is determined to create wealth through real estate and travel the world. I am far from done, but these are my results, and I am pleased with where they are mentally, spiritually, and socially. These tools work because I have seen the results through my own children, and like all the programs I design, I want to share them with all young people and families struggling to make their way through these challenging years. Social and emotional learning, I learned, is the critical success factor that gave them all the edge they needed to overcome challenges and create success in their life.

For more than 20 years, I have successfully trained youth of all ages to be the best they can be and Extreme Teen Leaders is a culmination of that experience and the leadership distinctions I have learned through my many years of transformational leadership training under some of the most impactful master trainers in the world. XTL360 Teen Leadership Program is the foundational program for all that we offer at Extreme Teen Leaders. These leadership distinctions - Discipline, Integrity, Responsibility, Enrollment, Commitment, Teamwork - are threaded through every program we create.

It is proven, it works, and my own personal results confirm it.

-Tamrah Barber, President & Founder

We are a non-profit organization and we are committed to diversity and inclusion and do not discriminate on the basis of race, color, religion, gender, gender expression, age, national origin, disability, sexual orientation, military status in any of our activities or operations.